Do you trust your partner?
One of the things my partner and I like to do is go for long motorbike rides. At one time I contemplated getting my own license but I love the closeness that riding pillion brings so chose to stay that way.
Riding pillion on the back of a motorbike gives me lots of time to think.
On our most recent ride it got me thinking about trust. And I asked the question across my social media platforms recently – ‘Do you trust your partner?’
For most people the response was an instant ‘yes’ which is unsurprising. We’re conditioned to believe that if we love our partner, we therefore trust them.
But trust is something very different.
Trust is defined as the firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something.
Sitting on the bike of the bike behind my partner I have to have the utmost belief in his ability. I have to trust that he isn’t going to try to show-off, scare me or do anything silly. Being on the back of a motorbike is a vulnerable position to be in.
I trust my partner implicitly. So much so that I’ve even been known to fall asleep, or rather doze off, whilst on the back of the bike!
I have so much trust in him that I am completely relaxed – other than when we were riding over the Swiss Alps some years ago and my fear of heights kicked in. The views were incredible but I started shaking involuntarily. He had to pull-over because my shaking was putting him off! We stopped, I got off, took some deep breaths, and off we went again. I’ve since conquered my fear of heights using hypnotherapy and NLP.
However, back to trust and being on the back of a motorbike.
Would you trust your partner enough to get on the back of a motorbike they were riding? Let’s assume for this purpose that they have a motorbike license and know what they’re doing.
If you wouldn’t get on the back of a metaphorical motorbike with them ask yourself why not?