A lot of the work I do with clients revolves around being tolerant of their partner.  You might think that was obvious but so many of us in long term relationships or marriages start to allow the little things our partners say or do, to annoy us.

Over time we lose tolerance with our partner.  Those ‘cute little quirks’ that we once found so adorable become annoying habits that drive us mad after we have been living with them for any length of time.

So how do we learn tolerance to accept our partner, quirks and all, in the way we expect them to accept us?  Or do we just decide that enough is enough, we can’t put up with the quirks any longer and that’s the end of the relationship?

It’s a conversation I have with my clients time and time again and I always ask them “Do you still love your partner?”  The majority of the time the answer is “yes, but I just wish they would stop ………”.

And there’s the crux.  Everything after the “but” is making their love of their partner conditional, and the quickest way to fall out of love is to make it conditional upon them being a certain way.  By learning tolerance and remembering what made you fall in love with your partner in the first place, you can quickly learn to love them unconditionally.

It takes practice both to love unconditionally and to be loved unconditionally and I spend a lot of time with my clients working through this.

On this International Day for Tolerance what can you be more tolerant of in your partner that will bring you back to unconditional love?

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